50 ways I worry about my illness and the holidays

 

Chronic Illness and the Holidays

1. Missing out on fun and events to rest and take care of myself
2. Navigating the dreaded “how are you?” or “what are you up to?” questions from family and friends
3. Dealing with the judgmental reactions of others when I need to make accommodations for my health (turning down the lights, opening the windows, dietary restrictions, etc.)
4. Worrying I will have a flare-up and knowing how hard it will be
5. Having to explain to family members why I’m not feeling well
6. Responding to unsolicited advice
7. Managing the expectations of others
8. Being misunderstood and judged by family
9. Explaining the unpredictability and irregularity of my symptoms to people who just don’t “get it” — helping them to understand why sometimes I am “OK” and sometimes I am not
10. Keeping my nervous system calm and grounded when others’ energies are swirling around me
11. Disappointing family by not being able to do the things I used to be able to do
12. Missing out on holiday events because of a flare-up or bad migraine attack
13. Dealing with family members who don’t understand or respect why I need to take breaks or rest
14. Feeling pressure to match the stereotype of partying on New Year’s Eve and knowing my body cannot handle that right now
15. Feeling FOMO and overstimulation at the same time
16. Handling the way social anxiety manifests in my body
17. Not being able to make it to all of the things I want to attend
18. Explaining to people that most of my days have both good and bad moments, and that both are legitimate
19. Answering questions from family at Christmas about my health
20. People judging the legitimacy of my pain when I do show up
21. Feeling like I’m a drain on my family and friends because I am sick
22. Not making it to special occasions
23. Pacing myself for events
24. Wondering if people will think I am “faking it” because I can hide my symptoms so well
25. Feeling like I am a burden to those around me
26. A flare-up striking at the wrong time and missing time with family and friends
27. Feeling out of it and not like myself with family when I have to take extra medication
28. Having to explain why I need to lay down or take breaks in the middle of events
29. Managing anxiety about extended periods of time out of the house
30. People pressuring me to drink alcohol at parties when I can’t (or choose not to) because of my health
31. Answering questions about health, school or work
32. Having a health crisis spurred by trying to do too much
33. Getting a flare-up while traveling or having something happen on the airplane
34. Anxiety about when (or what) the next attack of sickness will be
35. Family tension that kicks up my pain
36. Lowering unrealistic expectations I place on myself
37. Advocating for my needs when it is uncomfortable to do so
38. Accepting there is a difference between how much I can push myself and how much I should push myself
39. Being able to show up for the people I love in the way I want to
40. How to manage an attack when I am not at home
41. Getting sick on a long car ride and being trapped
42. Questions about my health from relatives, how to answer when their inquiries as to why I’m not “better yet”
43. Sticking to dietary protocols during events
44. Feeling like I am taking too much medication
45. Handling sensory overload from crowds, bright lights and music
46. Comparing what I can do to what others can do
47. Imposing unrealistic expectations on myself just because it is “the holidays”
48. People assuming I’m not trying hard enough to get well because I’m still sick
49. Explaining to friends back home that I’m not up to seeing them
50. Feeling like I am not enough